Principle of Harmony:
The Harmony Of Every Relationship Is Precious
The harmony of every relationship in the universe is a reflection of the harmony of the universe. It is the harmony of the relationship that makes it precious. In relationships among people, the shining jewels of this harmony are the teamwork to accomplish more than any could alone, the mutual gifts that the other does not have, the mutual trust and reliance, the mutual acceptance, the mutual caring, listening, consoling, approving, enjoying and the mutual love. Nurture the harmony of each relationship with another person, no matter how brief. It is precious to you, to the other person and to the universe.
When there is a disturbance in the harmony of a relationship, immediately notice it and be concerned. Immediately seek reconciliation to restore the harmony of the relationship.
When you harm someone else, feel your guilt, acknowledge it, check to see if the harm is real, if it is not, cure the misunderstanding and restore the harmony of the relationship. If the harm is real, or even if only real in the mind of the other person, make restitution as you can, seek forgiveness and forgive yourself. Then restore the harmony of the relationship with the other person.
When someone wrongs you, do not think immediately of hurt and revenge, think immediately of how you can heal the injured relationship and restore the harmony of the relationship between you. Check to see if the harm is real. If it is not, admit it and restore the harmony of the relationship. If it is real, use forgiveness to cleanse your heart and restore the harmony of the relationship. In seeking to restore the harmony, do not lose yourself, but do not lose the other person either. Restore the harmony of the relationship with the other person.
Remember the power of forgiveness to clean out the tangles of emotion that keep you from growing and being joyful again. Do not let the other person lead you around by your anger where you do not want to go. Even if it takes time and healing, forgive yourself, forgive the other person, and find a way to restore the harmony of the relationship between you. The harmony of every relationship is precious
Buddhism: The Harmony of Every Relationship Is Precious
One is not wise because he talks a good deal.
They are wise who are patient, and free from hate and fear.
Dhammapada, 19: 258, Easwaran, p. 158
Don’t try to build your happiness on the unhappiness of others. You will be enmeshed in a net of hatred. Dhammapada, 21: 291, Easwaran, p. 167
The sun shines in the day; the moon shines in the night. The warrior shines in battle, the brahmin in meditation. But day and night the Buddha shines in radiance of love for all.
Dhammapada, 26: 386, Easwaran, p. 195
Christianity: The Harmony of Every Relationship Is Precious
“You have heard that it was said to the people long ago, ‘Do not murder, and anyone who murders will be subject to judgement.’ But I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgement. Again anyone who says to his brother ‘Raca’ is answerable to the Sanhedrin. But anyone who says, ‘You fool!’ will be in danger of the fire of hell.
Therefore , if you are offering your gift at the alter and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the alter. First go and be reconciled to your brother; then come and offer your gift. Matthew 5: 21-24 (NIV).
Again you have heard that it was said to the people long ago, ADo not break your oath, but keep the oaths you have made to the Lord.@ But I tell you, Do not swear at all; either by heaven, for it is God=s throne; or by the earth, for it is his footstool; or by Jerusalem, for it is the city of the Great King. And do not swear by your head, for you cannot make even one hair white or black. Simply let your “Yes” be “Yes” and your “No, “No”. Matthew 5: 33-37 (NIV)
You have heard that it was said, “Eye for eye, and tooth for tooth.” [Exodus 21:24, Leviticus 24:20, Deuteronomy 19:21] But I tell you, Do not resist an evil person. If someone strikes you on the right cheek, turn to him the other also. And if someone wants to sue you and take your tunic, let him have your cloak as well. If someone forces you to go a mile, go with him two miles. Do not turn away from the one who wants to borrow from you. Matthew 5:38-42 (NIV)
You have heard that it was said, “Love your neighbor [Leviticus 19:18] and hate your enemy.” But I tell you: Love your enemies [some late manuscripts: bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you] and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be sons of your Father in heaven. He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous. If you love those who love you, what reward will you get? Are not even the tax collectors doing that? And if you greet only your brothers, what are you doing more than others? Do not even pagans do that? Be perfect, therefore, even as your heavenly Father is perfect. Matthew 5:43-48 (NIV)
Forgive us our debts,
As we also have forgiven our debtors. Matthew 6: 12 (NIV)
Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times?”
Jesus answered, AI tell you not seven times, but seventy-seven times [or seventy times seven]. Matthew 18:21-22 (NIV)
Jesus said, “Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven. Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. Luke 6: 37-38 (NIV).
A new command I give to you: Love one another. As I have loved you so you must love one another. John 13:34 (NIV)
Let no debt remain outstanding, except the continuing debt to love one another, for he who loves his fellow man has fulfilled the law…what ever other commandments there may be are summed up in this one rule: “Love your neighbor as yourself.” Love does no harm to its neighbor. Therefore love is the fulfillment of the law. Romans 13:8-10 (NIV).
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails. I Corinthians 13: 4-8 (NIV)
Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us do good to all people, especially those who belong to the family of believers. Galatians 6: 9-10 (NIV).
Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God. And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. Ephesians 6: 13-18 (NIV).
Confucianism: The Harmony of Every Relationship Is Precious
Yu Jo has said, AThe filial and fraternal who are fond of offending their superiors are indeed few. Those who bring confusion to our midst always begin by being fond of offending their superiors.
“Great Man applies himself to the fundamentals, for once the fundamentals are there System comes into being. It is filial duty and fraternal duty that are the fundamentals of Manhood-at-its-best.@ Sayings of Confucius I: 2
Tseng Ts=an once said, ADaily I examine myself on three points: Have I failed to be loyal in my work for others? Have I been false with my friends? Have I failed to pass on that which I was taught?” Sayings of Confucius I: 4
Yu Jo has said, “If the maintenance of reliability does not violate justice, any promise made may be kept. If the humility shown does not violate the rites, their will be no shame or dishonor involved. IF the reliance that is placed does not violate the interest of the family, it may be honored.” Sayings of Confucius I: 13
Tuan-mu Tz-u once inquired, “What would you say of the man who, though [poor, does not flatter; of the man who, though rich, is not proud?”
“They are right enough, but they are not to be compared with one who, though poor, is happy, and the one, who though rich, is fond of the rites.”
Sayings of Confucius I: 15
Hinduism: The Harmony of Every Relationship Is Precious
That one I love who is incapable of ill will, who is friendly and compassionate. Living beyond the reach of I and mine and of pleasure and pain, patient, contented self-controlled, firm in faith, with all his heart and all his mind given to me – with such a one I am in love.
Bhagavad Gita 12: 13-14, Easwaran p. 163
He is dear to me who runs not after the pleasant or away from the painful, grieves not, lusts not, but lets things come and go as they happen.
Bhagavad Gita 12: 17, Easwaran p. 163-164
That devotee who looks upon friend and foe with equal regard, who is not bouyed up by praise nor cast down by blame, alike in heat and cold, pleasure and pain, free from selfish attachments, the same in honor and dishonor, quiet, ever full, in harmony everywhere, firm in faith- such a one is dear to me.
Bhagavad Gita 13: 18-19, Easwaran p. 164
Islam: The Harmony of Every Relationship Is Precious
- those who spend in prosperity and adversity, who control their tempers when they are roused and who overlook people= faults (and Allah loves the benevolent) and those who, when they commit an indecency or wrong themselves, call Allah to mind and implore forgiveness for their sins ( and who can forgive except Allah?) and do not persist knowingly in that of which they have been guilty. Qur’an 3: 132-137
The true servants of the Gracious One are those who walk upon the earth with humility and when they are accosted by the ignorant ones, their response is: Peace; Qur’an 25:63
Judaism: The Harmony of Every Relationship Is Precious
Yaakov lifted up his eyes and saw:
there was Esav coming, and with him, four hundred men!…
And he bowed down to the ground seven times, until he had come
close to him, close to his brother.
Esav ran to meet him,
he embraced him, flung himself upon his neck, and kissed him.
And they wept….
I have plenty, my brother let what is yours remain yours.
No, I pray!
Pray, if I have found favor in your eyes,
then take this gift from my hand.
For I have, after all, seen your face, as one sees the face of God,
and you have been gracious to me.
Pray take my token-of-blessing that is brought to you,
for God has shown me favor – for I have everything.
And he pressed him, so he took it.
Genesis 33: 1-11 (FOX)
…for I YHWH your God,
am a jealous God,
calling to account the iniquity of the fathers upon the sons, to the
third and fourth (generation)
of those who hate me,
but showing loyalty to the thousandth [generation]
of those that love me,
and keep my commandments.
Exodus 20: 5-6 (FOX)
Naturalism: The Harmony of Every Relationship Is Precious
Opposition brings together, and from discord comes perfect harmony.
Heraclitus, The Enlightened Mind, Mitchell, p. 8
To men, some things are good and some are bad. But to God, all things are good and beautiful and just.
Heraclitus, The Enlightened Mind, Mitchell, p. 9
“Whoever has been initiated so far in the mysteries of Love and has viewed all these aspects of the beautiful in due succession, is at last drawing near the final revelation. And now, Socrates, there bursts upon him that wondrous vision which is the very soul of the beauty he has toiled so long for. It is everlasting loveliness which neither comes nor goes, which neither flowers nor fades, for such beauty is the same on every hand, the same then as now, here as there, this way as that way, the same to every worshipper as it is to every other.”
Plato: Socrates Speech in the Symposium, The Enlightened Mind, Mitchell, p14
Taoism: The Harmony of Every Relationship Is Precious
Failure is an opportunity.
If you blame someone else,
there is no end to the blame.
Therefore the Master
fulfills her own obligations
and corrects her own mistakes.
She does what she needs to do
and demands nothing of others.
Tao Te Ching No. 79